I am an oversharer on Facebook. I post a considerable amount of pictures (almost exclusively of my daughter) and update randomly.
Last week, I found myself typing out, “For parents of potty trained kids-what do you do when your kid is scared of going poop in the potty? We are talking crying fests, screaming “No! No! No!”.
Right before I hit post, I decided that was too much for Facebook. Dallas Moms Blog on the other hand, never!
My daughter potty trained herself. My husband and I did nothing other than decide to stop buying her diapers. Over a year ago, while getting her ready for a bath she asked to go potty and she went. She even pooped that night. From there on, at home she would always go pee in the potty. At daycare, she wore pull ups and they were always dry when we picked her up. She hadn’t mastered going poop yet but I know that takes more time. I was so thankful for this, because before I was like Jenny and didn’t know how or where to start.
About a month ago, with weeks of her being totally dry in diapers and always communicating even while out she had to go, we had a bit more confidence to leave the house diaper free. Of course the moment I type this all things will change but as of right now she has only had two pee accidents.
The poop issue though, well that is something I don’t know how to conquer. She generally poops at night when we are at home and I can always tell she needs to go because she runs around like a mad woman in circles crying because she doesn’t want to go. I will scoop her up run her to the potty and sit her down. She starts screaming that she doesn’t want to so I let her get up. She then will run around and poop her pants, then turn into a hysterical mess because she got her precious Dora panties dirty.
Twice I have semi held her legs down on the potty and within five seconds she has pooped. You can see the relief on her face and she is almost giddy-screaming for her daddy to come look who rewards her with this funky hip hop dance and chocolate. I just have read that you shouldn’t force them to sit on the toilet but that ending is a much happier (and cleaner) one and she doesn’t seem traumatized (I didn’t try this until a couple of weeks into this issue).
So Mommas, has anyone had this issue?
A little background and because being a mom there is never too much information-her poop is soft, she can’t communicate why she is scared to poop though she might have seen an unnamed parent go poop that wasn’t the “easiest” (parents have since required privacy while on the potty-but y’all know how hard that is with kids).
I’m really at a loss as to what my next step should be. Do I not try to guide the situation at all and just let her poop her pants causing a breakdown that rivals a teenager who just found out her biggest enemy is dating the boy she likes?
Do I continue to try to “force” her to sit on the potty when I know she is seconds away? The last thing I want is to cause more fear but she seems so much more upset about pooping in her panties than being held down for five seconds.